I came across this article in the online version of the Philippine Star and I thought that it would be very helpful to all married couples or people who are in a relationship.

The article discusses the differences between men and women and how they each deal with stress. The resource person of the article was Dr. Gray who, incidentally wrote the book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.” I got a kick out of reading that book and I wish that I had bought a copy of that so that my husband can also understand our differences and how to cope with these differences. Note to self: Get a copy! hehe.

My husband and I are opposites which I guess, makes our relationship stronger. Don’t get me wrong, we do fight; but, we try and work it out by talking when we have both calmed down. It is the making up part that is great. Our mistah always comments that he loves staying with us because our home is such a happy home because we try to supplement our shortcomings, i.e., my hubby cooking when I still have work and helping in doing the laundry (things which some consider unmanly!). We are not perfect, mind you. I guess what makes us click is being able to understand our differences and making our way around those differences. We choose our battles. We do have disagreements because after all, we both come from different backgrounds, thus, different opinions on a LOT of things. There are times when a little humility makes all the difference. I try to let small things pass when we disagree on things. Not all disagreements should be a chance to “one up” the other and he does the same. Marriage is not perfect but a process to make it perfect.